“As a culture, women are brought up to be fundamentally insecure.” – Lisa Ling
I find this statement rather disturbing, inquisitive, and introspective. How do you feel about it? Do you think that women, in the US, are fundamentally insecure? Do you think media has something to do with it? As much as we like to believe that we are born in a way that shapes are society, I believe, that our society shapes us. I do believe in a bio-psycho-social methodology of personality, or self.
With that said, I believe that it takes an aware and critical thinker to understand the subconscious levels of advertising, societal structures, and psychology. I also believe that the majority of people live lives so “busy” that they take many shortcuts in decision making, logic, and thought. I find this slightly sad, as critical thinking is one of my favorite hobbies. I really enjoy thinking deeply on a subject, researching, creating connections, brainstorming, looking at extraneous variables, and never accepting anything as an ABSOLUTE TRUTH. There are no absolute truths in life, except one day you were born, and one day, you will die. But even that, we don’t know really what happens when we die – the argument of religion, which I will keep out of for the time being.
So here’s a few things to think about…
I found this great trailer and have not watched the movie, yet, but am hoping it is on Netflix and I can enjoy it in the very near future.
There are many powerful statements made in this trailer. I think it is important to talk about this kind of stuff. Yes, the statistics of women involved in the media is upsetting. You’d think there would be more female representation in media, since there are a lot of female stars who are involved in movies, ads, TV shows, fashion, etc. however, the small section of these women are involved in the higher level executive positions, and this is not okay.
Being a strong woman, I like to think, makes me part of a minority in our society. How the hell can I even say that? How can I be in this cultural, where women are not equal, yet we hear horrible stories of “developing” countries about their political attacks again women (unable to drive in some Middle Eastern countries, lack of education for women, sex trafficking, etc) but we rarely hear about something horrible happening to women in the United States.
A few months ago, I watched a documentary about pornography called “The Price of Pleasure” and found it very different than my beliefs about the porn industry. Personally, I would not be a pornstar, stripper, call girl, or any of the other professionals that allow a woman to use her femininity as a way to make money. BUT, I do not condemn other woman who make a career out of it…I mean, honestly, if a person is okay with selling their looks/vagina/beauty for money, and they have a client base, why not? We, as female, have the right to be part of the market that already exists for women, so why not take power and do it our way? Well, because it isn’t our way.
Maybe there are more women out there in this world than me. Maybe I’m the odd one out because I don’t want to be spit on, hit, choked, gaged, called a slut, or gangbanged. But I really, REALLY doubt that. I love sex. Sex is beautiful. The art of pleasure, enjoyment, passion, and sensuality are all beautiful to me. So, I ask myself, do women feel like the most important thing in life is looking beautiful and grabbing men’s attention…well I’m starting to really believe it is because of media and the US culture.
Bringing this back around to society, culture, and womanhood…and positive thoughts, I wanted to find representations of women in the media that promote love for being a woman, normal behaviors of a human that aren’t represented on TV/movies, and just a few uplifting moments from the past. Enjoy!
The one and only – Liz Lemon – played by Tina Fey – (owned by NBC…because that is the law)
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And above, the end scene from The First Wives Club – if you haven’t seen it, watch it, it is amazing! Great story about 3 college friends connecting, after a suicide, and during their midlife crises, mostly due to their husband’s desire to be with younger women.
“Charismatic normality”; a description given to Molly Ringwald when she was a teenage star, playing admirable characters in Pretty in Pink and 16 Candles. She showed girls that it was okay to be different.
Now, her recent role as a mom in The Secret Life of an American Teenager, is a modern day perspective of high school. Which, a few years ago, I watched all the episodes, because I saw one and got hooked to the characters. I thought it was a good representation on life as a teenage girl, dealing with small issues and big issues, including pregnancy, love, loss, masturbation, relationships, divorce, eating disorders, and more…which are things that should be talked about in the media, because awareness is key. But, at the end of the day, all the girls are beautiful, wear makeup, dress a little risqué, and well, conform to the expectations that we, society, have of them.
So, in closing, love yourself & others – no matter who they are…Don’t judge a book by it’s cover…and always give people the chance to show you who they really are, because you may be surprised.
And on another note, one day, when I find the one to enjoy the rest of my life journey with, and we, have children (if and when), then I am going to do the best that I can to ensure that my daughter is going to be a game changing woman.